《她不必耍手段。》

《她不必耍手段。》

"聽說，某名女孩子有個非常了不起的男朋友，不獨條件一流，而且對女孩子寵愛有加，女孩子的外形一般，但性格文靜乖巧，出席聚會和派對時，都是靜靜地坐覑。

有人說，這名女孩子勝在無手段，又無機心，男人覺得她真的好純。然而，其實，因何她會完全無手段？原因只得一個，這段感情，來得好順利，那個男朋友，由一開始就好真心。

因為男朋友主動追求，女孩子一直都是被動的，而且，男朋友很快就落實與她長久一起，於是，女孩子完全不必猜心猜疑、思前想後、欲擒先縱、研究男人心態……她只需要純純乖乖地存在，享受順利的愛情發展。

當一段愛情進展得順利，當那個男人是真心的話，所有女性都不需要使出任何手段。在被愛之時，每個女人都會非常純善無爭。

為甚麼女人要耍手段？全因為那個男人忽冷忽熱、出現競爭對手、關係虛虛實實。當一個女人要變身獵人去捕捉愛情時，她就不可以繼續純良無知。

純善的女人，是由男人的寵愛中培育出來；然而，會耍手段的女人，何尚不是由男人的壞處中激發出來？"

Credits: GetJetSo 之 《她不必耍手段。》.

Translation:

Title: She Doesn't Have To Resort To Underhand Methods.

There was once, this girl who had an incredible boyfriend.
Not only did he had good qualities, he adored and doted on the girl alot.
The girl had an average look.
She was quiet and gentle.
Whenever she attended any parties or gatherings, she'd just sit down by the side and observe.

Some people say that the girl won the heart of her boyfriend because she's clean in her actions and has no ulterior motives.
But the fact is that the one reason she does not have to resort to underhand methods, or harbor any ulterior motives is because the relationship between her boyfriend and her came smooth for her.
Her boyfriend was true to her, from the start.

The boyfriend wooed her from the start, she just went along with his flow.
They went into a stable relationship with a solid foundation, for a long time, not long after he started wooing her.
And thus, the girl has no lack of trust for her boyfriend.
She does not need to question him, doubt his actions nor try to delve deep into her boyfriend's attitude.
All she need to do was to exist innocently, and enjoy how their relationship progress.

So why do ladies actually resort to underhand methods?
It's all because men have their hot and cold moments to their ladies.
Or perhaps, an involvement with a third party.
When a girl have to chase after her love, that is when she change, to someone who will no longer be pure.

A kindness and pureness in a girl is formed when her guy treats her right.
As for ladies who resort to underhand method, guys, you really have to think about why they do that.

***

A short passage like this with that few paragraphs really touched me.

Well, I don't expect my ideal relationship to be like the girl in this text.
I know that a relationship can only be consider strong when it has went through many obstacles and when both parties involved in it went through those storms together.

But this text kind of explained the bitch that I am today.
It's so tiring to carry suspicions and doubts all the time.
And I hate to try and be so observant to notice any slight change.
Or being so sensitive.

I sincerely hate it will all my heart when people are hot and cold to me.
There's a Chinese phrase that goes like, “用你的热脸贴在人家的冷屁股上。”
Basically, in English, it means sticking your warm face into the cold ass of another.

Isn't that how you feel when you're genuinely treating someone and that someone just doesn't appreciate it?

Well, it explains.
Nuff said for what's going on my mind.

You get the gist.